It Is Possible to Have Fun When You’re Chronically Ill

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I’ve been debating whether I should post this, but ultimately, I wanted to show you that it is possible to have fun when you’re chronically ill. Yes, you have to do things differently, but it is possible!

In this post, you’ll find out a few ways to make sure you have fun when you’re chronically ill, even if your illness stops you doing a lot of different things. You’ll also find out about my 18th birthday and party!!

18th Birthday Party

Last weekend was my ‘Birthday Weekend’ (because you have to spread out the celebrating)! I had an amazing party – it was just like an Open Mic, except with more people, different people and not at the beginning of the month. I played a lot of piano (…on a keyboard) and did two sets! I didn’t think I’d even manage to get through one! Okay, so I was completely strapped up with kinesiology tape (you can check out my review here for my favourite kinesiology tape) and I had to strap up my knees up while I was there, but my legs didn’t give out and my arm only got fatigued rather than giving out too.

Set Rules and Boundaries

The only way I knew I was going to get through my party was to set some rules. They were as follows:

  • No mention of health
  • No touching me

These may seem pretty strange if you don’t know my background/symptoms, so let me do a quick recap. One of the symptoms I have is dysaesthesia, which means my skin is painful to touch. This one is where the “no touching me” rule came from. I also hate people touching me anyway because… you know… germs.

I really didn’t want anyone to mention my health over the weekend so that I could feel more like a normal (nearly) 18-year-old. Only a few days before was I told that I have Hypermobility Spectrum Disorder and probably Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome too (you can see the update of this appointment here). Very few people knew I had an actual diagnosis, but people knew I had a rheumatology appointment. Those who did know wanted to talk to me about it, but my party was just not the time to do that! I even made my mum write an email about how people weren’t allowed to talk to me about my health!

Now, these rules were broken – by me as well as other people – but it meant that not everyone was talking to me about my health, and very few people touched me. Yes, I was still in pain and felt sick and I couldn’t just forget that I’m chronically ill, but these rules meant that I could enjoy my party as much as possible.

The moral of this story is to make sure you set rules and boundaries. It’s okay to tell people not to do things so that you can enjoy yourself. You need to do this so that you can enjoy yourself.

Learn When to Say “No”

This tips ties in very nicely with the previous one. Learning to say “no” to people is very difficult (for me, at least), but it’s a necessary evil.

I have had to learn to say “no” to a lot of things since being chronically ill: when offered food I can’t eat, going out when I’m too fatigued or in too much pain, when people try to touch me and so much more! It’s not just saying “no” to other people, though. You have to learn to say “no” to yourself. There have been times when I’ve wanted to play guitar but my skin is too sensitive, times I’ve wanted to play piano but my hearing is too hypersensitive. There have been times when I want to go for a walk and take photos but my legs are too weak to walk and my arms are too weak to hold the camera.

But it’s not just saying “no” that you have to learn to do; you also have to learn when to say “yes”. I’ve covered this in my post for A Chronic Voice’s May Linkup Party (which can be found here), but it’s really important so I’m going to go over it again. You have to learn when to do things that will be worth the flare-up. If I hadn’t said “yes” to having my 18th birthday party, then it wouldn’t have happened and I would have spent my birthday in my room by myself. If I hadn’t said yes, I wouldn’t have witnessed my friends singing ABBA – or joined in!

You just have to learn to listen to your body but to ignore it when things are worth it.

Happy Birthday to Me!

To finish off my ‘Birthday Weekend’ we had my actual birthday! This actually felt like a normal day in the afternoon, because I was just sat upstairs watching TV and recovering. I’m surprised I lasted as long as I did after my party and a busy morning opening presents and sorting stuff out. The afternoon was pretty busy as well, even though I was in bed, because I sorted out all the photos for my photography website (something I’ve been meaning to do for a while). I also watched a lot of Life on Mars – highly recommend, I’m rewatching it for the third time!

Take Time for Yourself

Taking time for yourself is important anyway, but it’s especially important when you’ve been busier than usual or have been with a lot of people.

I knew that I just needed some time to myself to recover/recuperate. There were so many people at my party, and then I had all the business and excitement of it being my birthday. I just needed that half-day by myself so that I wouldn’t get too overwhelmed.

If you ever feel overwhelmed by too many things happening, symptoms or anything else that makes you feel overwhelmed, just take some time for yourself, even if it’s just a few minutes. It will make such a difference. You’ll be able to gather your thoughts and make sure you’re not overdoing it.

Conclusion

If you just skipped to the end of this post to find out the ways to have fun when you’re chronically ill, here they are:

  • Set rules and boundaries
  • Learn to say “no”
  • Take time for yourself

Just make sure you have fun, but do things in a way that you won’t suffer afterwards.

 

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2 Replies to “It Is Possible to Have Fun When You’re Chronically Ill”

  1. Aww the party sounds fab, and I think you should be hugely proud of playing keyboard when bundled up with tape & you’re limbs getting so fatigued. You’re right, it’s still possible to have fun, but it takes adjustments; doing things differently, changing your expectations a little, adapting as best you can so you can still do some of the things you want to do and have a good time. I think the rules were a great idea to help set boundaries, and getting your mum to email about no-health-talk for the party made me chuckle, that’s the kind of thing I’d get my mum doing too! HAPPY (belated) BIRTHDAY!! Glad you managed some rest & recuperation and sorted out some photos for your website, while squeezing in plenty of TV (don’t think I’ve ever seen Life on Mars, will have to IMDB it now). Great post! 🙂
    Caz xx

    1. Thank youuuu!! Life on Mars is AMAZING, but I have it on DVD, so I’m not sure where else it can be found. xx

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